Expectations hurt

As I was retrospecting through my life I observed a very unique phenomenon about friends and the established notion that it is the ego that comes between friendship.


I went a step further and tried to find out how this ego originates and breaks friendship.I Strongly think that there is more to it and it is the expectations that we keep from our friends.
When we befriend someone we expect him to act in the way we want him to.
These expectations vary with different people your so called friends. You would want your best friend to be your alter ego and act/react in the same way you would in a particular situation ; take the stance you would have taken and support you as and when required.
You would have no expectations with the strangers or may have negative expectations from your conceived enemies and are ready for any assault whatsoever from them in any form.

What happens when your friends act/react in a way you wouldn't have expected ?
This results in sour relations with him/her.

So Misunderstanding according to me is your inability to understand why he/she acted in a way you didnt want  him to and what were the reasons that forced him to act in that way.
This can be due to your inability to judge the person completely or any other specific reason / critical situation the person was in when he acted in that way.

I think that we should give sufficient time before we declare "we are friends now" . We should map into our minds the actions/reactions of the counterpart in different situations.
The best way to escape from this complicated process and what I would suggest you is never expect anything from anyone. It hurts when the expectations are not met. So best way out is be neutral be simple and "NEVER EXPECT"

Just for Fun

Frank was excited about his new rifle and decided to try bear hunting. He spotted a small brown bear and shot it. Right after, there was a tap on his shoulder and he turned around to see a big black bear. The black bear said, "That was my c...ousin and you've got two choices... Either I maul you to death or we have sex."

After considering briefly, Frank decided to accede to the latter alternative. Even though he felt sore for two weeks, Frank soon recovered and vowed revenge.

He headed out on another trip where he found the black bear and shot it. Right after, there was another tap on his shoulder. This time a huge grizzly bear stood right next to him. The grizzly said, "That was a big mistake, Frank. That was my cousin and you've got two choices. Either I maul you to death or we have rough sex." Again, Frank thought it was better to cooperate.

Although he survived, it took several months before Frank finally recovered. Outraged, he headed back to the woods, managed to track down the grizzly and shot it. He felt sweet revenge, but, then, there was a tap on his shoulder. He turned around to find a giant polar bear standing there. The polar bear looked at him very sadly and said, "Admit it Frank, you don't come here for the hunting, do you?"

The Orkut Era...

HI frndssss ,

As my first post i would like to emphasize on the impact of Orkut on the Youth. As One of the prominent users myself i strongly feel that with the orkut a new era ,"The ORKUT Era" has kicked off.
Think of the times when you could'nt be in contact of your bestest frndss and relatives when they moved to a different place altogether. The fear of losing them or atleast the fear of losing contact was in itself sooo big. Now with frnds nd ppl so close and mere a login away ,its so easy and convenient that noone might have thought of.

Imagine and feel the difference between the times between the so-called pre ORKUT Era and ORKUT Era .I strongly feel that it is one of the inspirations for changing the lifestyle among the youth. Think of the moment when one says "Hey Take a Pic Here ,i want to post it on Orkut".
Who cared earlier about the way one would look.. and now seee the difference - Not only we can see but post comments too. And thanks to Digi Cam and uploading engines that has made this task so easy. With Google taking hold of orkut a lot has been changed. The way you can chat and adding your frnds directly to your fav chatting engine GTalk...

Quoting my personal experiences i have found some of my best frnds after 12 yrs on orkut. I never hoped that i would meet or talk to them again... This was a gr88 feeling to talk to your childhood buddies..

What say guys..? dont u feel if no orkut was there how would u pass ur time in collg searching the profiles of ur counterparts and how would you ever talk to your best collg frnds in ur bsy office schedule..